How to Deal with Sex Addiction

What is sex addiction

In current medical terminology, it is “sexual impulse control disorder or hypophilia,” a form of compulsive sexual behavior (rape is another form of compulsive sexual behavior).

Actually psychopathology and psychology as early as the beginning of the 20th century middle of sex addiction research, in the diagnostic and statistical manual of mental illness in the fourth volume, and for the definition of “addiction” and describe, in the latest American diagnostic and statistical manual of mental illness in the fifth volume (DSM – 5), has no words and definitions about “sex addiction”.

In other words, the medical debate about “sex addiction” is not yet a diagnosable mental disorder and has not yet been accepted by most mainstream psychiatrists and psychologists. The American psychological association (APA) has so far not recognized sex addiction as a defined, prescriptive, treatable mental disorder, but the study of sex addiction in psychiatry and psychology has never stopped.

So while we’re used to using the term “sex addiction,” some scholars prefer to use the terms “sex drive control disorder” and “compulsive sexual behavior.”

How do you know you have a sex addiction

many person have sex and love addiction. we can judge according to the following content.

There are generally two stages of sex addiction:

Stage 1: indulge in the thoughts, feelings and behaviors of sex addiction, feel pleasure and enjoyment;

Stage 2: pain outweighs pleasure, shame, guilt, and frustration outweighs enjoyment.

(of course, some scholars later rejected these two stages, saying that the first stage is simply sexual activity, not sex addiction or control disorder.)

One would think that a sex addict must be constantly changing sexual partners, or even staying in a sexual relationship with multiple partners at the same time. Most of them do, but some of them use masturbation to solve their problems. However, when sex addiction reaches a certain level, masturbation alone can not meet their needs. One person stated that his girlfriend (boyfriend) was a sex addict and worried that she would have sex with someone else when she was out alone, and that she would not be able to “feed” him on her own. This was also shown in the movie female addict.

Therefore, the problem of “sex addiction” is not only determined by the number of times of sex and the number of sexual partners, but also by whether it is a compulsive behavior on oneself.

In modern society, no matter at home or abroad or in China or the west, it is always easy to talk about “sex” for reasons of tradition, religion and other aspects, even in relatively open countries.

In fact, “sex” is like eating and drinking water. A sex addict is like a person who eats a large amount of food. He may only eat white rice all the time, or he may eat different food. However, we rarely eat again after we’ve had enough, and sex addicts can’t help but stuff their mouths.

Sex addicts may have all sorts of “sex” thoughts running through their heads from time to time, whether it’s in a meeting at work, on the bus, or at a party with friends. Probably just can’t wait to get started. Masturbating in the bathroom or in public when no one else is available to have sex with.

Sex itself is supposed to bring people a kind of pleasure, but they are troubled by their own work, life and relationships. They have become the slaves of sex, not the masters of sex.

Of course, they are not only obsessed with the sexual process, they are excited by “planning”, “imagining”, etc., and they are also haunted by “shame” and “guilt”.

What causes sex addiction

It is generally believed that sex addiction is an over-frequent sexual behavior caused by physiological, psychological, family and social factors. Physiological factors are generally caused by endocrine diseases or drugs. However, some researchers believe that physiological factors of sex addiction are beyond the scope of true “sex drive control disorder.”

A study at Cambridge university has actually found that people who engage in compulsive sex operate in the same areas of the brain as those who were previously diagnosed with drug addiction – all involved in reward and motivation. So the academic consensus is that sex addiction is “an insecure person seeking stimulation and validation of their own worth.” (not absolutely)

In general, sex addicts are obsessed with not only sex itself, but also contact and emotion. So there are sex and love addiction clubs in the United States. Sex addicts are more likely to satisfy their emotional needs through sex. According to the data provided by the group, some people lack a clear boundary between sex and relationship, forcing themselves into an emotional or sexual relationship and causing their own mental anxiety. Some people will have too much sex or other reasons, causing the inability to orgasm, and thus more anxiety.

Marty Klein, an American sex therapist and marriage counselor, said, “I would not easily diagnose sex addiction. People with these tendencies are basically simultaneously struggling with these psychological problems: obsessive-compulsive disorder, impulsivity, obsessive-compulsive disorder, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder or post-traumatic stress disorder.”

So, in fact, the so-called sex addiction, in addition to physiological drug factors, may be more and their own childhood experience, encountered changes and so on. However, each person’s situation is different, so it needs to be individual to be typical.

Are sex addicts dangerous?

In fact, most of the hazards of sex addicts are themselves, disrupting their lives and mental states, as described above.

However, sex addicts do not necessarily become sex offenders. Not all sex offenders are sex addicts, but sex addicts are more likely to become sex offenders.

Many sex addicts have more sexual partners, what some call “licentious“. Personally, I do not agree with the word “licentious”, because “licentious” itself is a pejorative term and label of strong emotion. If discussed from an academic perspective, it is more appropriate to call it “multiple sexual partners” and “multiple sexual partnerships”.

Because they have no control over their sexual behavior, sometimes it doesn’t matter to them whether their partner is single or married. This is a very complex behavior and relationship from the moral level of modern society.

However, this is not a “sex addict” trait, as many “non-sex addicts” do.

In addition, it should be clear that sexually active people do not represent “sex drive control disorders.” It doesn’t matter how sexually active you are, as long as you’re not endangering your work life, emotions and society.

Finally, because there is no definitive psychiatric or psychological definition of a sex addict, it is important not to treat your own or someone else’s sexual activity as a sex addict.

In his article “inappropriate terminology in sexology”, the famous German sexologist Owen hebber made it clear in a brilliant passage:

Sex addiction, an analogy to “drug addiction,” is often used to describe an excessive focus on sexual behavior, hence the term addiction. But this linguistic gimmick seems premature. For it seeks to measure with a ruler many things; By the same token, it prevents people from insight for a wide variety of sexual behavior and motivation, such as habitual behavior, compulsive sexual behavior, does not meet the sexual behavior, stupid behavior, wayward behavior, self injury sex, thoughtless sex and aggressive behavior and so on, these are impossible to use a term to be interpreted. Even people who have less need of sex may, because of jealousy, describe some of their most energetic sexual behaviors as “sex addiction”.

How to overcome sex addiction

First of all, we should find the cause of sex addiction. If it is an endocrine disease, we should seek medical treatment in time to eliminate the root cause of sex addiction, so that sex addiction can be diluted and gradually disappear. If it is caused by a psychological disorder, seek help from a psychologist. Many sex addiction patients with anxiety or obsessive-compulsive disorder, so active treatment of these psychological disorders, often can receive the effect of the bottom line, and then reduce the degree of sex addiction.

To the mental pressure that modern society brings increasing day by day, appropriate USES other healthy means to reduce pressure more, for instance run, gymnastics, ball to wait for sports exercise, sing, dance to wait recreational activity, cannot be infatuation at sexual activity, want to prevent to produce dependence especially.

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